The start of a new school year can cause some children to feel nervous or uncertain. Especially those who are transitioning to a pivotal grade, such as entering middle school from an elementary school environment or becoming a high school freshman. There are new classes, teachers and classmates for them to become familiar with all at one time. Additionally, their school work is getting more difficult and their social skills are being put to the test. All of this can be just plain overwhelming.
Think about it. In many ways, when a child moves to a new grade each year, the emotions and challenges associated with the transition are comparable to what an adult would face if he or she changed jobs every year! New teacher — new boss. New classmates — new colleagues. New classroom — new work location. The bottom line is that adults and kids should make good use of the opportunities that arise when they change jobs, grades or schools. They can improve social skills, develop new relationships, learn new information, and get involved in more activities and clubs.
So how can you help your child adjust to changes at school? First of all, encourage your child to make new friends. Entering a higher grade usually provides more opportunities to get involved in sports, music or other activities. That’s a great way for kids to meet new peers. Set a goal with your child of talking to at least one new person every week. If your child tends to be shy, let him or her know that adults often find themselves in the same situation. While some of us are natural networkers, others have to learn to cope with the challenge of meeting new people. It can be just as daunting for grown-ups to enter a room full of strangers, shake hands and be comfortable talking with people we don’t know. Tell children and teenagers that stepping up to meet others is an invaluable skill that will prepare them for their academic and professional careers. We live in a world that encourages team interaction and being able to talk with anyone about anything.
Another important adjustment involves balancing academics with a social life. As kids get older and become active in more extracurricular programs, they need to learn the importance of time management and getting a well-rounded educational experience.
You’ve heard the saying, “Change is good.” Well, that adage is true. Tell your child to make the most out of the changes and new responsibilities that go along with transitioning to a higher grade. Remind them this is an exciting time in their lives and they should relax and enjoy the experience.
